"For the record, feminism by definition is: ‘The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.’
I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called “bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents—but the boys were not.
When at 14 I started being sexualized by certain elements of the press.
When at 15 my girlfriends started dropping out of their sports teams because they didn’t want to appear “muscly.”
When at 18 my male friends were unable to express their feelings.
I decided I was a feminist and this seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Apparently I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, anti-men and, unattractive.
Why is the word such an uncomfortable one?”
Watson’s speech, which was met with a thunderous standing ovation, not only called for action from male allies, but clarified a persistent misconception about feminism in general.
A few days ago, Vice News posted this video detailing the deceptive practices of anti-choice Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs)
It’s worth the nearly twenty minutes of your time to watch all the way through: going through the history of CPCs, interviewing a woman who was deceived by a CPC and consistently citing sources that prove the lies anti-choicers say in those facilities wrong.
The biggest lie in this video is the following quote:
"If people die due to an abortion, later on a lot of times they’re finding parts of the fetus in, like, the lungs or the heart."
It needs to be seen to believed. If someone told me that an anti-choice CPC “councilor” told them that fetal parts can navigate through the strong, muscular tissues of the uterus, over the digestive organs and somehow push through the strong, muscular tissues of the heart and lungs I’d believe I was reading satire.
But this is something an anti-choice CPC “councilor” actually said.
With money from your tax dollars.
With the support of your state legislature.
As was said at the end of the presentation - if CPC owners said up front that they do NOT provide abortion services and are there as a resource for those who need help in keeping an unplanned pregnancy we wouldn’t have a problem with them.
But they refuse to do that. They spit and squeal when laws are passed that force them to say that they do NOT provide abortion services…because they don’t. They lobby old white men sitting on the court benches to overturn these laws, citing ~*~freedom of speech~*~ despite the fact that this kind of business practice is reported to the BBB when it involves ANYTHING ELSE.
Because the crux of the anti-choice movement is lies.
And I’m really curious to see how some of my anti-choice hate followers want to justify these practices, instead of screaming “NOT ALL PROLIFERS/THEY AREN’T REAL PROLIFERS” like they’ve done for every other post of mine that calls them out.
Go on. We’re waiting for some facts.
No more lies.
Tips for writing a character that's Alcoholic?
Lola's Madness Answer:
Research. Lots of research. Lots of varied research from varied and trustworthy sources.
This is pretty much always going to be what my answer boils down to because it is the best way to do it. I can’t give you something more specific for things that I don’t have deep personal experience with or have done research on previously for some other reason.
I do have one new tip for research: Never rely on someone else to do your research for you because you don’t know if they used reliable resources for it, and you might have to defend your use of something at some point in time. Always get multiple resources for the same thing, if you can, especially when pulling from first person experiences.
It’s important to think of how your character’s alcoholism affects their life. Does it cause them to have troubles with the law? Relationship issues? Are they a functional alcoholic? Was their alcoholism caused/aggravated by a trauma or event? Is it used as a way of self-medicating versus getting treatment for depression, anxiety, bipolar, etc.? Did they have other addictions or have they had any others, so that their drinking is considered to be the lesser evil?
Hello there, I've been following this blog for quite a while now, I love how you help everyone on here. Now I have a request. Got any tips on writing smutt? As my URL suggests I'm fond of cyberpunk, and I write a novel of this genre. It's pretty violent, and when I write sex parts I feel I'm being way violent, I don't know how to explain. Anyway, thanks in advance and greetings from Mexico!
Lola's Madness Answer:
Anonymous said:im writing a story with multiple sex scenes and im just needing some advice on how i can write them all differently enough that it doesn’t get boring for the reader. thanks!I’d suggest both of you check those links, some really helpful information for you. On making them different I would say that sex is never the same twice, foreplay can be different, the situation, location, position. So keep this in mind when writing and perhaps with each smut scene focus on different aspects off the experience.Any other advice, guys? -S
"Depression is such a cruel punishment. There are no fevers, no rashes, no blood tests to send people scurrying in concern. Just the slow erosion of the self, as insidious as any cancer. And, like cancer, it is essentially a solitary experience. A room in hell with only your name on the door."
"What if women had minstrel cycles instead of menstrual cycles? You’d just have a guy with a lute follow you around for a week every month and play you songs constantly?"-
My boyfriend (via thecarrionlibrarian)
#no but can you imagine if that was how you learned once a month you weren’t pregnant#by some dude singing songs about the victory of it#you wake up and he’s there and you are so happy#this dude becomes your favorite dude#but then you realize you haven’t seen your friend’s minstrel in a while#I mean everyone notices#like half the people are on the same cycle so for one week out of four your job is just flooded with fucking minstrels everywhere#the cacophony#but Mary over there is all alone#and she’s like my minstrel is late#but we all fucking know#her minstrel has gone off to find her a baby#a nine month journey he must make alone#and until he comes back there is no music in her life#what a glorious world this would be#I love the minstrels (@onionjuggler)
Sorry, what I immediately think of is the goddamn minstrel in Fable 2, who you can’t fucking get rid of no matter how fast you run, until he runs out of shit to sing about, terribly.(via impuretale)
In the slam poem “I Think She Was A She,” spoken word poet and performance artist Leyla Josephine recounts the abortion she had as a teenager and the cultural shame she’s been constantly confronted with ever since.
In Septemeber 2014, Missouri lawmakers decided women must wait 72 hours to “reflect on their decision” before they can get an abortion. ‘Cause, ya know, an abortion is one of those spur-of-the-moment decisions like ordering pay-per-view or having another glass of wine. And what about cases of rape, incest, or medical complications? Well, they have to wait 72 hours too.
On its own, this is pretty upsetting. But when you consider how easy it is to get one of those shiny metal things used to take people’s lives? That’s when the blinding rage sets in.
Some people love to shut down people who talk about trans and intersex issues by saying that they’re “only 1% of the population” and thus can be ignored since they “aren’t statistically significant enough.”
By that logic, we can now systematically ignore:
- The entire state of Rhode Island
- Anyone who makes over $500,000 a year
- Pacific Islanders