"leave room for Jesus" has got to be the creepiest worst thought out bit of dance chaperone "wisdom" ever
"no kids don’t grind on each other grind on our Lord and Savior instead”
Get all up in the Lord’s business, if you know what I mean.
I’m not really down for a threesome with the son of god
You guys why.
Hello Salty! How are you today? How about we talk about something serious? How about... abortion! Your opinion? I believe that every woman should have the choice of it and we shouldn't make it illegal.
Asketh - wolfyalexis
Oh, golly gee, hit me with the tough questions…
Now, everyone has a right to to their own opinions and I completely respect that right.
With that being said, here is my own.
I believe all life is sacred and while on this Earth we have a duty to assist, attempt to understand, and be empathetic towards one another. Personally, would I ever get an abortion? No. But that’s myself. I have no right to tell another woman if she should carry out her pregnancy.
To myself, abortion is the termination of a pregnancy and not a baby. Personhood at conception is not a proven biological fact
Her life is just as sacred and just as meaningful and if she does not have the resources to care for a child or the ability or desire to carry the pregnancy to term and offer adoption, it is not my place to judge. Instead, in an effort to care for human life, I can only do my best to offer assistance by donation to low-income mothers/parents, free baby sitting and tutoring, foster care, and push for a safe medical facility in which abortion can occur if it is so chosen.
*There are 68,000 maternal deaths from ‘back alley abortions’ each year in the 33 countries where abortion is not legal or available (David A Grimes, MD, et al., “Unsafe Abortion: The Preventable Pandemic,” Lancet, Oct. 2006)
*Anti-abortion position is often argued with religion as a basis and that ideology; while beautiful in itself, has no place as a foundation for a law in the United States. This is not a ‘Christian Nation’ and our constitution requests a separation of church and state.
*I cannot find a recent study on the availability of contraceptives for low-income women. Due to the recent health care law changes, I feel a recent study would be better. The latest I can find is 2009 which stated half of all group insurance plans did not cover any form of prescription contraceptive and 75% of insured women lacked coverage for contraceptive services [Ann Kurth, PhD, et al. “Reproductive and Sexual Health Benefits in Private Health Insurance Plans in Washington State,” Family Planning Perspectives, July/Aug. 2001]. However, as our media seems to idealize sex while our society seems to look down upon it; many women are shamed for taking contraceptive measures (For instance) and even receive wrongful information on preventative acts during intercourse. I could go on about how I detest the ‘abstinence until marriage’ curriculum but that is best suited for another time. However, if interested, you can read more [here]
*Many women do not have the financial resources to support a child. In one study, 73% of women who had an abortion responded that their reason why was that they could not afford to have a baby. 38% stated it would interfere with their education and career goals. (Lawrence B. Finer, Lori F. Frohwirth, et al., “Reasons US Women Have Abortions: Quantitative and Qualitative Perspectives,” Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, Sep. 2005) To me, it seems wrong to sentence a woman or her partner to give up their dreams because contraceptive failed or was not readily available. And motherhood must never be a punishment for sexual intercourse.
*Because lack of financial resources is the primary reason for abortion, a pregnancy that is carried to term under these conditions result in children raised in poverty. Malnutrition, starvation, lack of medical and education services, underdevelopment and conflict over resources becomes a very real issue. The chances of leading criminal lives in adulthood are increased. (John J. Donohue, PhD, and Steven D. Levitt, JD, PhD, “The Impact of Legalized Abortion on Crime,” The Quarterly Journal of Economics, May 2001)
*Fetuses are incapable of feeling pain when an abortion is performed (Stuart W. G. Derbyshire, PhD, ”Can Fetuses Feel Pain?,” British Medical Journal, Apr. 29, 2006)
*Modern abortion procedures are safe and those women who had at least two abortions experience the same future fertility as those who had two natural pregnancies (Peter Frank, MD, et al., “The Effect of Induced Abortion on Subsequent Fertility,” Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology of the British Commonwealth, June 1993)
With all that being said, I believe abortion should be legal and I have no say in the termination of a pregnancy that is not my own. I believe all life is sacred and so I do what I can to care for life by offering tutoring, assistance, and time with children and their parent(s). I work in health care, I went to school for psychology and sociology, I teach, I run an advice blog. I do not picket abortion facilities, I do not place blame on those who may need their services.
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The sources and way this is organized is beautiful
Ten Women I Have Been Warned Against Becoming:
1. The Girl Who Takes Up Too Much Space, always, her shoulders too wide in stairwells, her hips too big in doorways, her voice too loud in classes. This woman does not understand the art of crumbling, of curling herself tight like the spiral of a fern, soft, delicate, unwilling to reach out the ivy of her fingers to grasp onto what should rightfully be hers. This is a beast, an elephant, a moving mountain and she is capable of flattening you, she is capable of ruining you, she is capable of making you feel as small and insignificant in her life as she is supposed to be. You are this woman’s footnote to history, you are her side note in song lyrics, you are constantly interrupted by her with a witty joke you wish you thought of. I asked what the problem was with being a steamroller instead of a sunflower and I was laughed down.
2. The Beautiful One, the long hair or the slim waist or the pretty eyes or the lips like bowstrings. This woman looks good in everything because she’s confident in whatever you put her in. She’ll cut her hair short on you no matter how you like it, she’ll wear high heels and step on your opinions, she’ll look hot as hell no matter what size she is. See, the reason you can’t trust her is because women like this don’t need your permission, they’ll do as they please and get away with it. They’ll say no to you, over and over. Teach your daughters that beautiful means dangerous, teach them to distrust women who love themselves. Equate beautiful with vapid, equate pretty with stupid, take their power from them. Say they’re vain for their makeup, refuse to see them without it. These women are snakes, they are serpents. I said maybe the problem lies with you being unable to control yourself and was told to get off my pedestal.
3. A Bitch. Women are supposed to be ladies in the street but will tear skin under sheets. I’m told: Never raise your voice. Speak gently. Submit. Hold your opinion against your lips and when you admit to it, make sure it comes out as a butterfly wing suggestion. Don’t disagree. Don’t undermine someone else’s authority, regardless of whether or not they deserve your respect. Someone touches you, just move away from them. Don’t hit. Don’t talk back. Be like the ruins of Rome, only beautiful if you can’t hear your quiet death.
4. The Needy One. I have heard how others spit when they talk about how she gave you everything and you shoved it back down her throat until she choked on it, until she came back crawling and asked you what she did, until her palms and knees were scraped for want of just a little affection - never be this woman, I’m told, because she’s a joke and the joke is that she dared to have more emotion than you did. The truth is, I’m told, the one who cares less in a partnership is the one who wins. I didn’t know this was a competition.
5. The Cock Tease, certified stripper, how dare that girl look like that and not want me to sleep with her. Lust is always personified as a lady in red with a dress slit up her thigh. Lust is sinful because it’s power, it’s not asking for attention - it’s demanding it. I’m told she is the worst kind of woman, that looking good is supposed to be some kind of shame on her kin. I’m told not to leave the house in such a short skirt, not with a shirt so low, not with a lace back, not with high heels, not dressed like that. My lipstick can’t be too red, my hair can’t be too mussed, I can’t just “turn someone on like that and then leave them wanting.” I mentioned that instant gratification actually ruins our psyche and was told that being led on was “exhausting.” I said that there was a difference between purposefully tricking someone into liking you and just being attractive or friendly. I was told there’s also a difference between coffee and tea but both result in caffeine. I said, “I’ve been turned on in class by the girls I talk to but I didn’t expect anything from them,” and they said, “It’s different, you’re not a man,” but couldn’t explain where that difference was.
6. A Slut, obviously ruined by another person’s touch. It doesn’t matter how many people she’s actually been with, it’s all about the rumors she carries with her. Easy. Harlot. You’ll still try to get with her, you’ll still take her into your bed and kiss her and say things you don’t mean - but you’ll defame her name when you talk to your buddies. My father used to say “A slut is fine for the night, but the virgin is who you take home and marry.” Maybe he didn’t know he was teaching his daughter to hate her sexuality. Maybe he didn’t know that every time she’d be kissed, her whole system would shake until she felt ready to combust, shame and self-hatred shivering against her spine. Maybe he didn’t know she’d disconnect emotions and sex because he always told her, “Boys are different, they won’t care about you.” Nobody said to her that it was okay to experiment. See, the funny thing is, I’m a dancer so I know exactly where my center of gravity is. I know how hard I’ll fall in each direction. Yet out of fear of getting hurt, I won’t let a single person inside of my bed.
7. The Soulmate. Never love romance more than you love being cynical. Never show weakness, never like pink, never think maybe you might find someone nice and settle down with them. Someone will find you, I was told, And if you’re lucky, he’ll put up with you when you start getting old. Never be the woman who believes in happily ever after, never be dumb enough to think maybe someone could love you after all of your mistakes. It has nothing to do with whether or not a family is important to you and you’re in a good place where a relationship would make your life better - you’re not a princess. You don’t get married, you settle.
8. The Girl With Strength, who can outrun everyone and who is stronger than her boyfriend. “See the thing about boys,” says my daddy, “Is that you have to let them win.” I sat at home and read stories about Artemis and wanted to become the huntress, too. I wanted to howl at the moon, I wanted to slay the beasts that bested me, I wanted to rule my kingdom with bloody fists. But girls are never athletes, never supposed to be “built,” regardless of the fact civilizations were constructed on our spines and we made homes in war by the steel of our ribs. Never be strong. We are supposed to wilt.
9. The Lady CEO: because if you choose work over family, are you really a girl? How dare you fight your way to the top through every pair of eyes that bore through your blouse, through every meeting where you were hushed by the sound of someone else talking, through every time someone called you “sweetie,” how dare you yearn for something. Is your husband the stay-at-home one? I can’t imagine how that is going. He’s not a real man, after all. I don’t give it long before the divorce. How dare you decide you’re happy being single. Don’t you know you’re supposed to bear children. Where is your honor? Where is your wisdom? Who cares if you are the leader, the best suited for your position, the quickest-thinking, the one who makes the hardest clients come back again. Don’t you see? Across history, women have been terrible at success. They always lose their man in the end. (When I said, “I would rather be a famous author than a mediocre mother,” I was told, “No, don’t worry, you’ll be a fine mommy.”)
10. THE GIRL I AM: FIRECRACKER AND DON’T YOU FUCKING FORGET IT I’LL RIP YOU TO SHREDS AND I WON’T FUCKING REGRET IT I’M NOT YOUR PRETTY GIRL I’M NOT YOUR ANYTHING I’M PERFECT, MOTHERFUCKER, AND I’M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP WHAT I’M DOING. I DON’T WANT TO BE “LADYLIKE” THAT LITERALLY MEANS NOTHING I’M NOT GOING TO STOP STANDING UP AND DEMANDING WHAT’S COMING TO ME. I’M GONNA BE SOMEBODY. I’M GONNA MAKE THEM REMEMBER ME. I REFUSE TO BE OVERSHADOWED IN HISTORY. I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE TRYING TO CREATE BUT YOU MADE ME A DRAGON YOU PUT ME IN THE FIRE AND WHEN I STOPPED BURNING I LEARNED HOW TO GLOW DON’T THINK YOU CAN STOP ME YOU CAN’T TAME A TORNADO.